those who are married: “Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, be subject to your husbands.… Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (5:21–22, 25). John Paul II calls this “mutual subordination in Christ.” Both husband and wife use their freedom to submit themselves to each other in Christ. They surrender their lives to each other, and in doing so they become free, mature human beings. They surrender their lives out of love. This is